5 Key Steps to Transition with Ease.
Hello from Solana Beach, California! The past month has been packed with adventure, tears, joy, worry, and 
expansion.
By nature, transitions have a way of moving us past our comfort zone into a fresh reality. Like stretching a rubber band beyond its normal tension range and holding it there until it adjusts to its new length.
Like a rubber band, when we hold on just long enough through the discomfort, we reset – what was once uncomfortable is now natural and easy. The fear is that we will stretch the band so far that it breaks, which is what keeps us from trying in the first place.
To ensure I didn’t break, I leaned into practicing more self-compassion, trusted in my ability to navigate life and my emotions, along with knowing I am being supported by The Universe. Something all of us struggle with from time to time, especially when life gets real.
Here are my top five steps to navigating any transition with ease.
- Sometimes you won’t feel strong. Transitions innately require strength because they factor in the unknown. Whether we are moving to a new location, having a child, changing jobs, starting a business or ending a relationship, transitions move us from one reality to another which can be both exciting and terrifying all at once.
- Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. Emotions are a mixed bag, often heavy on your system bogging down your mind and depleting your energy. Having compassion for yourself and what you are going through will help you move through whatever muddy water you feel you may be wading through or drowning in. Know it is OK to feel messy and it is OK to be messy. Feel the fullness of what you are feeling and don’t attach a story. Simply acknowledging your feelings, without even having to know what they are will help clear your system and get your thinking back on track.
- Grieve. During my relocating road-trip from Seattle to Southern California, I realized I was experiencing the stages of grief. I was grieving a life I’d know so well, and the illusion of what I was going towards. I had to be present and allow the process to move through me. Grieve what was lost, grieve what was left behind, grieve what has changed, grieve any illusions I had created about what I was doing or thought I was doing. Sometimes we need those illusions to give us strength, but when the reality begins to form, the illusion needs to be grieved and let go.
- It’s ok to doubt your choice and evaluate your decisions. If you didn’t there’s a possibility you have checked out and disassociated with your experience; unconscious to your internal state and not present in your life. With this, we aren’t honest with ourselves, our feelings, and creates islands of isolation out of us. Which leads me to my final step…
- Allow yourself to be supported by all. By all, I mean by friends, strangers, family, spouses, The Universe, and so forth. Many of us are taught not to do this, especially men. The man-up culture of toxic masculine training, “don’t cry” and “get it together,” conditions men and women to “be strong” forcing us to fake it till we make it and live trapped behind a mask. Isolation is one of the key components in depression and to counter this we must intend on connecting with others. Allowing in a community of people to support you in your transition may feel vulnerable to the ego and can most definitely stretch the independent spirit out of his/her comfort zone. It is essential for our human spirit to know it is cared for and not alone. Even something as simple as a smile from a stranger or a supportive phone call to someone safe can make an impact on a person we know nothing about. Connect with others, be available to be supported, and allow others to show up for you.
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